I Sought
For A Man…
Ezekiel 22:30
Dr. David L. Brown
First Baptist Church of Oak Creek Wisconsin
Ezekiel
22:30 “And I sought for a man among them, that should make
up the hedge, and stand in the gap before me for the land, that I should not
destroy it: but I found none.”
Outline
I
Sought For A Man…
I.
That
Has Learned to Lean
II.
That
Has Learned to Lead
III.
That
Has Learned to Love
Introduction
Manhood is under attack in America! I
read an article by David L. Goetsch called Neutering
The Male of The Species: The Feminization Of American Society. Feminists are neutering the American male and
the American male is letting it happen. In his book, Missing from Action:
Vanishing Manhood in America, author Welden M. Hardenbrook writes:
“Over the years I have had the privilege of working with the broad spectrum of
men who can only be found in America. No matter who they have been—capitalists,
communists, college students, dropouts, Christians, atheists, blacks, whites,
young, or old—they have had one problem in common. They have suffered to one
degree or another from the touch of the feminizing forces that have taken over
the land. These men have not been sure what it means to be a man…They are men
who refuse to take responsibility. Their passivity and inaction ensure
that…leadership
in their homes belongs to their wives.” Hardenbrook might have
added that it isn’t just in the home where
men are no longer leaders.”
Today is Father’s Day. God is
seeking for men, biblical men. I want to address that the qualities of biblical
manhood and fatherhood are. Being a man, functioning as a man, taking
responsibility as a man, thinking like a man, acting like a man, working like a
man, all of these are prerequisites to being a good Father! You cannot be a
good father until you are a good man, biblical man. God is seeking biblical
men.
I Sought For A Man…
I. That Has Learned To Lean
[upon the Lord]
Proverbs
3:5 “Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto
thine own understanding. 6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct
thy paths.”
A.
For Salvation
Eph.
2:8-9 “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of
yourselves: it is the gift of God: 9 Not of works, lest any man
should boast.”
God has designed men to be “in
control and to “make things happen.” However, this can be a disadvantage. It is
often difficult for a man to yield to the control of the Holy Spirit &
accept Christ as Savior and let Him be in control of his life. A good man
realizes he is under the authority of God.
Leans on the Lord…
B.
For Strength
Isaiah
40:30-31 “Even the youths shall faint and be
weary, and the young men shall utterly fall: 31 But they that wait upon
the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles;
they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.”
Isaiah 41:10
“Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy
God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee
with the right hand of my righteousness.”
Leans on the Lord…
C.
For Supply
Phililippians 4:19 “But
my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by
Christ Jesus.”
To be sure, the Lord expects us to be
diligent! Solomon wrote, “Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it
with thy might….” Ecc. 9:10. God
expects a husband and father to provide for his wife and children. Remember however, it is God who gave you your
brain and gifts. It is God who gives your health. It is God who will see you
through the challenges of life if you will look to him! Our Lord taught his
disciples to pray – “Give us this day our daily bread and lead us not into
temptation but deliver us from evil. (Mat.
6:11 & 13).
It
is God’s design that a husband and father provide for his family. Paul wrote to
Timothy –“If any
provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath
denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.” (1 Tim. 5:8).
Considering
all of that, we need to remember we belong to God. Psalm 100:3 reminds us – “Know ye that the LORD he is God: it
is he that hath made us, and not we ourselves; we are his
people, and the sheep of his pasture.”
Our
Creator wants what is best for us (Jer.
29:11). The Lord is to take TOP priority in our lives and when that is
true, He will see our needs are met. Mat
6:33 “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all
these things shall be added unto you.”
Leans on the Lord…
D. For Soundness (Reasoning/Wisdom)
There are two sources of wisdom in
the world – God’s Wisdom and the corrupt wisdom of Satan (James 3:13-18). Obviously when you need wisdom the place to go is
to the Bible and find out what God has to say. We read in James 1:5 “If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that
giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.” This
is the one of only two prayers any person can pray which the answer is always
yes! Calling on the Lord for Salvation is the other – Romans 10:13].
Going to the godless world for
wisdom is dangerous. We are warned in 1
Corinthians 3:19 that “the
wisdom of this world is foolishness with God….” God blesses those who refuse to
seek and follow the council of the ungodly (Psalm 1).
A good man, a biblical man has learned to lean.
I Sought For A Man…
II. That
Has Learned to Lead
A. His Flesh
When
we get saved, the Holy Spirit comes to live in us. We have a new nature.
Ephesians says, “put
on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness.”
(Ephesians 4:24). Yet, know this you
still have the “old man” or the flesh. Verse
22 of the same chapter says “put off concerning the former conversation the
old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts.”
A biblical man learns to lead by
rejecting the “flesh” and walking is the Spirit. Galatians 5:16-17 “This I say then, Walk in the
Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusteth
against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary
the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.” Galatians 2:20 reminds us, “I am
crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me:
and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of
God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.”
Men, we have to lead our flesh or our flesh will lead us! We
need to walk in the Spirit!
A biblical man is a man who has learned to lead…
B.
His Family
Ephesians
5:23 says, “For the husband is the head of the wife, even as
Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.” Headship
is NOT being the dreaded dictator. To be sure, “the husband is the head of the
wife.” However, he is to be the loving leader. A body only has one head. All of
the other members function per the direction of the head.
That does not mean the woman is
inferior. The ground is level at the cross (Gal. 3:28) to be sure! However, God has established a chain of
command that is to be followed. We read of it in 1 Corinthians 11:3 “But I would have
you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is
the man; and the head of Christ is God.”
Men, listen: Headship is not a
privilege as much as it is a responsibility! The hardest think you will
ever do is be a good biblical husband to your wife and a good biblical father
to your children.
In about 1252 B.C. Eli was the
High Priest and judge in Israel. He took good care of the Temple, but not his
own children. He had two sons named Hophni and Phinehas who are said to be sons
of Belial (1 Samuel 2:12). They had
sex with the servant girls of the Temple and took meat from the people that was
meant to be used in sacrifice (1 Sam.
2:15-17 & 22). Eli knew all about what his sons were doing and even
talked to them (22-23). But that was
NOT enough. God expected Eli to stop their behavior (1 Sam 3:13). He refused to step up to the plate and stop his sons.
As a result, God killed his sons. When hearing the news, he fell off of his
seat and dies after judging Israel for 40 years.
Men, God expects
you to lead your wife and family. God expects you to have your wife and
family in order!
I Sought
For A Man…
III.
That Has Learned to Love
A. The
Father (the Lord)
Mark 12:30 “And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy
heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength:
this is the first commandment.”
1 John 5:1-3 “Whosoever believeth that Jesus is the Christ is born of
God: and every one that loveth him that begat loveth him also that is begotten
of him. 2 By this we know that we love the children of God, when we love
God, and keep his commandments. 3 For
this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments: and his
commandments are not grievous.”
B. Their
Families
I
have written an entire chapter on a husband loving his wife. Suffice it to say
that God admonishes every husband to love his wife. Ephesians 5:25 & 28
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and
gave himself for it; 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.
He that loveth his wife loveth himself.”
Just
for the record, the love as used here is far more than
affection or erotic love. It is more than emotional feeling or
satisfaction. What is in focus here is agape
love. The essence of agape love is goodwill,
benevolence, and willful delight in the object of love. It means that you are going to seek
the welfare and happiness of the person loved. That means that my effort will
be to make the object of my love secure, content, and comfortable.
What about the children? Shouldn’t
we love them? The answer is yes! However, there is no direct command telling
dads to love their children like there is concerning the wife. However, there
are passages that indicate it is the proper norm to love your children. Paul
indicates that in the last days men shall be lovers of themselves and not their
children & family. The phrase “without natural affection” (Rom. 1:31; 2 Tim. 3:3) is a translation
of the Greek word αστοργοι - astorgoi which means without
family love.
There is more. Proverbs 13:24 says that a father who loves his children son will chasten
him diligently. It is the Hebrew word used for love of family. Again in Proverbs 3:11-12 is the Lord corrects
those He loves “even as a father the some in whom he delighteth.”
A godly father loves his family.
C. The Fallen
James
2:8 says the “royal law according to the Scripture” is to “love
thy neighbor as thyself.” A biblical man is concerned about the souls of those
who are unsaved. He lets his life shine before men so they can see his godly
character and he opens his mouth and shares the Gospel so they have the
opportunity to be saved (2 Corinthians
5:17-20).
D. The Fellowship (with other believers in the body)
It begins with worshipping together
at church - Hebrews 10:24-25 “And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works:
Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is;
but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day
approaching.”
It continues as you serve together - Paul thanks God “For
your fellowship in the gospel from the first day until now.” (Phil. 1:5).
It build us up as we “sharpen”
each other’s
iron - Proverbs 27:17 “Iron
sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.” When
iron is rubbed against another piece of iron it shapes and sharpens
it. Similarly people can help each other improve by their discussions,
criticisms, suggestions, and ideas.
Conclusion
I
Sought For A Man - A man of God is one…
I.
That
Has Learned to Lean
II.
That
Has Learned to Lead
III.
That
Has Learned to Love